Donor-Vamp Contracts

Written by: SphynxCatVP
Link to original: http://sphynxcatvp.nocturna.org/articles/sc-dvcontract.html

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Some people disagree with the idea of a "contract" since it makes things too formal, or puts things on paper that perhaps shouldn't be, or even because it sounds idiotic to have a contract done for this type of situation.

Honestly, I happen to agree.

However.... I live in the USA, a country full of people who tend to sue anyone or anything at the drop of a hat, and over things that would have never been an issue if the person had simply exercised common sense. If you are more levelheaded in choosing your donor - and not just thinking with your anatomy :) - then this will likely not be necessary.

Understand that this may not be a perfectly legal binding instrument - but it will demonstrate circumstances that both parties were fully consenting adults in a court of law.

For donors you do not know very well, I'd recommend drawing up a contract. It doesn't have to be complicated, but it does have to say that your donor is willing to give blood to you through whatever method you put in the contract. Make sure both your names are mentioned in it, and that you both sign it. This may not keep you entirely out of trouble, it will prove you did not commit what is legally considered assault by forcing yourself upon an 'unwilling' donor. Make a copy of it, keep the original and give the copy to your donor.

If your donor is unwilling to sign a contract, beware! They may be out to get you in legal trouble, or they may not truly understand what they are getting into (and probably shouldn't be your donor in the first place, in either case.) They may also be generally leery of signing a legal document (which is understandable), if so, take the time to explain what it entails. The wording here is designed to be in "plain English" rather than lawyer lingo so that it's easier to read. If the terms used in this version here are confusing, a visit to dictionary.com should clear them up.

The second paragraph is optional - if you already are dating or married to the donor in question, it's irrelevant and feel free to delete it.

I am not a lawyer, someone who is can probably come up with a more thorough wording, but possibly at the expense of clarity. That said, here is a suggested contract wording - replace the {stuff in wiggly brackets} with the actual names involved:

I, {donor's first/middle/last name}, being of sound mind and body, certify that I am of legal age and have provided {vampire's first/middle/last name} with appropriate proof of age. I certify that I am donating blood to {vampire's first/middle/last name} for the purposes of consumption. Blood will be drawn by {insert method(s) used here}, applied to {insert body area(s) here}, and is not intended to cause permanent damage. I understand that each donation will cause a small scar that may be visible to other people. I understand that testing will be necessary to verify I have no contagious blood-borne diseases, and willingly agree to these tests. The person paying for these tests will be {determine who will pay for the tests and insert their full name here}.

[This paragraph is optional - if printed and not needed, cross out and have all people involved initial the change.]

I {Donor's first/middle/last name} certify that I am not looking for sexual or other intimate relations with {vampire's first/middle/last name} as a result of this type of interaction, and will not pressure or force {vampire's first/middle/last name} to do so. I understand that s/he is within his/her rights to not see me anymore or any reason and have legal charges brought against me if I do so.

[End optional paragraph]

Although all precautions will be taken, I understand infection and serious injury may occur in spite of all precautions and will not hold {vampire's first/middle/last name} responsible for any unseen complications.

I, {donor's first/middle/last name} agree not to press any charges, civil or criminal, against {vampire's first/middle/last name} in relation to this activity, or events arising from this activity.

This contract may be ended by either party at any time by written release.

Signature lines:


___________________________________________ date_________________
{donor's first/middle/last name}

___________________________________________ date_________________
{vampire's first/middle/last name}

Prescreen Your Donor!

Make sure your donor doesn't have contagious blood-borne diseases such as HIV/AIDS, Hepatitis, etc. Their doctor can run a barrage of tests, but the most convenient way is to have your donor donate blood. If there are blood-borne diseases in the blood, or other problems in the donating process, the donor will receive a letter or other form of contact from the agency indicating there's a problem if they are not told on the spot. (In the USA, it's the Red Cross.) If the agency cannot accept them as a normal blood donor due to past or present diseases, you shouldn't either. (Not accepting someone because of sexual orientation apparently does happen in some places, but that, by itself, is no reason to not accept them as a donor for you.

Check the medication(s) your donor is taking. If you are allergic, or if any of them can have unpredictable effects on someone who doesn't need them, you run the risk of having side effects just from the residue in their bloodstream. If you have severe allergies, such as peanut allergies, consider what your donor has been eating or drinking as well. You don't want to have to go to the hospital for allergic reaction care and explain how you ingested the substance you're allergic to. :) If you do have an allergic reaction, that requires a trip to the hospital, take an allergy pill before going. You'll probably have to wait a long time in the waiting room, and it'll reduce the symptoms.

Pre-Treating

The absolute basics: Washing, preferably with disinfectant soap. Clean everything that will be used in the process - skin, mouth, hands, and the knives or other tools you intend to use for bloodletting. Areas to pay particular attention to are as follows:

Mouth

brush your teeth and rinse out your mouth. Use a toothpaste/mouthwash that won't have a strong flavor when mixed with blood

Skin/hands

The area being fed from also needs to be cleaned. Wash with antibacterial soap and water, then wipe with a surface disinfectant such as alcohol. Those individual alcohol pads are convenient, but have a nasty aftertaste, especially if you don't let the area dry first - rubbing alcohol will most likely be the most convenient all-around thing to use. Vodka or other clear, strong alcohol can be used as well (and will probably taste less like "chemical crap") if you have it, but I realize this isn't practical for anyone under the drinking age.

Blades or other tools

Blades should be soap-and-water cleaned, then at least wiped with alcohol for a quick cleaning. I've heard hydrogen peroxide can be used, but also I know running a blade through an open flame (candle, lighter, etc.) will generally kill most germs, and is less obnoxious to the skin.

Additional tip

Antibacterial soap is always clearly marked in the stores. Warehouse-style shopping clubs tend to have them in bulk packs or very large (I've seen up to gallon size!) containers fairly conveniently, and relatively cheaply compared to small packaging. Food service stores may have it as well, but the other places are easier for the average consumer to find.

Drawing Blood

NOTE: Unless you have an excellent relationship with your donor, have them cut themselves instead of you doing it. This makes charges of "assault" much more difficult unless they're amoral enough to lie in court (and if they are, why are they your donor, hmmm?)

The two easiest methods for anyone without medical training are:

Lancet devices

This is the pen-like device used by diabetics to test blood sugar levels. These can be purchased from any drugstore, or major discount store (Wal-Mart, K-Mart, etc.), and in the USA generally do not require any medical proof of need. (Outside of the USA your mileage may vary - the recommendation is to say that you are buying them for someone else if asked.)

Razor blades

These are the simplest to get, but can get messy if you're not careful. It is recommended that you learn where the major veins and arteries are in the body so you can avoid those areas. This might be found online if you know where to look, but your best bet is a medical book that illustrates them. I've seen them in science discovery type stores as well as normal bookstores if they're large enough. (A single-owner small bookstore probably won't have them in stock, but if they deal in new books, might be able to special order them.) If there's a college/university campus near you that has a medical school, their bookstore will have medical books of this nature, as well as books on many many many other medical topics.

The location I personally recommend is the top of the shoulder, where the palm of your hand would naturally drop if you put your hand on their shoulder. In my experience, this is fairly safe and easily hidden under just a T-shirt, provided it's not that close to the neck, or the T-shirt is see-through. Your donor may have other locations in mind, as long as they're away from any major arteries or veins and won't cause other permanent damage, feel free to use them.

Aftercare - Minor Cuts / Simple Wounds

Minor cuts and scrapes generally don't require a trip to the emergency room (and if the advice and recommendations above are followed, emergency room trips should not be necessary.) Here are some basic guidelines for the care of simple wounds.

Stop the bleeding

Minor cuts and scrapes will usually stop bleeding on their own. Make sure the wound is clean so nothing gets trapped inside. If it doesn't appear to be stopping, apply gentle pressure with a clean cloth or bandage. If the blood spurts or continues to flow after 20-30 minutes of pressure, seek medical attention.

Cover the wound

Exposure to air speeds healing, but bandages can help keep the wound clean long enough for any necessary scabs to form and help keep bacteria out. There are various medicated bandages you can use on the wound (Band-Aid brand has several). There have been studies showing that wounds covered in antibiotic cream or ointment heal slower, so I don't -personally- recommend them, but you can use them if you like. Be aware certain ingredients in some ointments can cause a mild rash in some people - if a rash appears, stop using the ointment as it's most likely some type of allergic reaction.

Watch for signs of infection

See your doctor if the wound isn't healing or you notice any redness, drainage, warmth or swelling. (Don't be afraid to go to the doctor, but remember, bloodletting is not well accepted and could easily be used against you if someone wants to ruin your life. Find a good excuse for why you have a cut in that particular place. Climbing a fence or a tree, working on the car, cutting something braced on your leg, scratches from your cat or dog or your friend's cat or dog, etc.)

Aftercare - Severe Bleeding

You shouldn't be cutting so deep, but sometimes accidents happen unintentionally. Here's some advice from the Mayo Clinic:

Have the injured person lie down. If possible, position the person's head slightly lower than the trunk or elevate the legs. This position reduces the risk of fainting by increasing blood flow to the brain. If also possible, elevate the site of bleeding.

Remove any obvious dirt or debris from the wound. Don't remove any objects pierced into the victim. Don't probe the wound or attempt to clean it at this point. Your principal concern is to stop the bleeding.

Apply pressure directly on the wound using a sterile bandage, clean cloth or even a piece of clothing. If nothing else is available, use your hand.

Maintain pressure until the bleeding stops. When it does, bind the wound tightly with adhesive tape or a bandage. If none is available, use a piece of clean clothing.

If the bleeding continues and seeps through the gauze or other material you are holding on the wound, don't remove it. Instead, add more absorbent material on top of it.

If the bleeding doesn't stop with direct pressure, apply pressure to the artery delivering blood to the area of the wound. Pressure points of the arm are on the inside of the arm just above the elbow and just below the armpit. Pressure points of the leg are just behind the knee and in the groin. Squeeze the main artery in these areas against the bone. Keep your fingers flat. With your other hand, continue to exert pressure on the wound itself.

Immobilize the injured body part once the bleeding has stopped. Leave the bandages in place and get the injured person to the emergency room as soon as possible.